Catch a Cheating Spouse - The Basics

If you suspect that your partner or spouse is not being faithful or is having an affair their are many methods that can be used to find out the truth. This article will cover some of the basics that anyone can do with know special equipment or training.

If you would like to use a more “high tech” approach such as spy cameras or GPS trackers please visit an online spy store.

The first thing that you should do is keep a detailed record of reported activities of your partner or spouse. Write down the times, dates, places, other people involved, excuses given, etc. The notes that you take will be indespensable to you when comparing what is told to you with ATM receipts, telephone bills statements etc. A cheating partner is likely to change his or her story, and if confronted will most likely question your memory, so keeping a detailed record of everything is extremely important.

Keep track of all incoming phone calls. Record the date, time and phone numer of all the calls.

Go through the trash, his or her wallet, purse, pockets etc. when they are not around. If your partner is going to restaurants, bars, movies or anywhere else with their suspected lover there will be receipts and they will surely want to get rid of them. There is a good chance that they will get sloppy or hurried and throw them in the trash at home or hide them in their wallet or purse or car. If you find anything that you are suspicious of or cannot explain save it as evidence or write down the details and put the receipt back where you found it so that he/she does not get suspicious. Your partner is already being secretive so do not let them know that you are suspicious of them or they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks.

Plan a surprise visit to work, or come home at unexpected times, or tell your partner that you have to work late, but then come home early, etc..

Keep track of your partner’s mileage, receipts, credit card statements, atm withdrawals (unaccounted for cash), phone records, etc.

If you can, check your Partner’s call log. Look for an unusual amount of phone calls. Much of the time the cheating spouse will store the name in thier phone using a fake name.).

Confronting your spouse before you have the evidence that you need to make your case should not be an option. And never reveal all of your evidence at once. Many cheatering spouses will try to make up a story that fits with the evidence that they know about. But, if you withhold some evidence, and let your spouse/partner create a story, it gives you the opportunity to use the remaining evidence as leverage. By strategically withholding evidence, your spouse will start to question exactly how much you know, increasing the chance that he or she will tell the truth.

If you do find something out of the ordinary try not to approach your spouse until you have enough evidence to get hi/her to come clean.

Think for a minute about how your partner might try to dismiss your accusations (we were just joking around, I was just flirting, it was a misunderstanding, we are just friends, nothing happened, etc.). Gather proof ahead of time by anticipating how your spouse may respond to the accusations so that you can counter what he says.

The important things to keep in mind are be thorough in finding evidence, take notes on any little thing, and save everything.

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June 2, 2009 | Filed Under Relationships

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